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Sex and sexuality are natural, vital parts of being human. Whether we're actively having sex or not, our sexual selves are always with us—blended into how we relate, connect, express,and experience the world.   

We’re taught about contraception and reproductive cycles but not about pleasure.  Sex can be one of the most enriching parts of a relationship, but it can also be one of the most challenging. As we move through life, our sexual desires, interests, needs, and boundaries change—and that's completely normal.    

So many different factors influence how we feel and respond sexually, and our relationship with ourselves as sexual beings plays a powerful role in our overall well-being. When it's positive, it can be amazing. When it's shadowed by shame or confusion, it can quietly hold us back in ways that touch all areas of our lives. Shame often cascades to the next generation, such as a sibling pregnancy which can affect the whole family and their feelings towards sex passed down from the older generations. But it can also hold many people back in areas of their lives that have nothing to do with sex 

Despite how central sex is to human experience, it’s still a subject wrapped in taboo, misinformation, and mixed messages. We're constantly told what sex “should” look like—how often we should have it, what kind is acceptable, how we should feel about it, and even how our bodies should appear. Mainstream media idealizes sex, often portraying it as effortless and flawless. Porn tends to do the opposite—disconnecting sex from emotion, intimacy, and communication. 

In reality, fulfilling sex has nothing to do with performance or perfection. It's not just about penetration or orgasm—it's about presence, trust, playfulness, and permission. It’s truly about knowing ourselves, communicating openly, saying yes to what excites us and no to what doesn’t, and feeling free to explore without shame or embarrassment. 

Sexual confidence isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we grow into. And just like any other area of life, our sexuality continues to evolve as we age, as our relationships shift, and as our circumstances and peer groups change. 

Sex can be one of the most joyful, healing, and life-affirming experiences we have. But it’s also complex and sometimes messy—and that’s okay. Anxiety, disconnection, or shame around sex is more common than most people realize, whether it's from trauma, and these feelings can often block our desire or even our ability to engage sexually. 

You don’t have to go through this this alone. I offer a free, confidential consultation to talk through where you’re at and how we might work together.